This is one of the most common worries about telling your counsellor anything – will they judge me? Will she think I’m an idiot? Or wasting their time? Or a horrible person?
Rest assured – all counsellors are trained to be non-judgemental and to respect differences and diversity. If you do feel judged at all, try to open up and tell your counsellor how you are feeling. That should help sort out any issues between your relationship.
Remember that what you tell your counsellor, how much detail you go into, is always up to you. Take your time and pace yourself as necessary, and you will find that mutual trust will build gradually. Once you feel safer and more confident, you may find that there are many other things that you want to talk about that you hadn’t considered before – which is fantastic!